Let's talk about my current fabulous relationship!!
That is what really makes these posts creditable, because I came out on the other side of the crappy exes to find that one person I was almost certain didn’t even exist.
Friendly reminder: you will never be too much for someone who can’t get enough of you.
I have always been an empathetic person who went the extra mile for people who wouldn’t even give me half the amount of effort I was willing to put in. This is no longer the case though! My partner consistently proves in not only his words, but his actions that he makes my happiness a top priority. As well as how he truly appreciates, and cherishes me for every thing I am.
I used to ask myself, “why is it that I have so much to offer, and am willing to give, but no one is willing to even meet me half way?” I realized at some point that it wasn’t just because of something wrong with me.
There are past relationships where I saw so much potential in a person to become something amazing, even more than they believed in themselves, and all I ever wanted was to help them become the best versions of who they are. Not change who they are, but I learned from my first serious relationship with a guy that you can’t make someone do or be something that they don’t want to.
It wasn’t that he didn’t want to grow, he just wasn’t willing to do what it took to grow with me. So that is ultimately why it didn’t work out. (Which ended up working out even more so in my favor, because he taught me a lot about how to be a better woman for another man, and one who is deserving of all my love and them some).
It’s like when you have an ex who turns around, and does for another woman the things you asked for, but he wasn’t willing to do for you? Those examples are one in the same.
With my current partner he knew right away that he was in love with me, and was willing to do what it took to be with me, and that is the type of energy that you should go for. With most men, experts have shown that if a man loves you, he knows from the beginning.
A piece of wisdom I came across said, “Don’t marry the man you love, marry the man who loves you. A woman can grow to love a man, but a man either
loves you or he doesn’t”.
Don’t waste time on guys who look at you as an option. I promise there is a line of people who are willing to give you the love you have been searching for, and very much so deserve. Those guys are holding up the line for other people if they aren’t trying to match this energy.
Now with all that negative stuff being said, I can confirm that they aren’t all like that, and someone will rise to the occasion. That there is someone who can and will appreciate, cherish, and worship every inch of you.
(PSA females: guys will worship the ground you walk on- people just don’t want you to know your true value and worth. Don’t settle. There is no reason for it.)
I have always either been too much, or not enough.
I have had a low self esteem, and self worth for years, and one of my favorite aspects about my current partner is how he is teaching me to love myself as much as he loves me. He helps me tackle my insecurities, and over time he has helped me get over some of those insecurities.
When someone truly loves you, they make you love yourself as well.
I feel like we have a successful relationship, because of our mutual respect for each other. When two people love each other, and are a team, any problem can be tackled. Only much easier than if one person were to be doing it alone.
A part of the traumatic experiences I had in my childhood had to do with my parent’s alcoholism, and violence. So needless to say, I grew up around a lot of screaming and fighting. My parent’s marriage wasn’t exactly a good basis for relationships to begin with.
Well thankfully I did not end up dating like my mother, because another wonderful quality that my partner has (yes, I could totally sit here and think of dozens of reasons why he is perfection in my eyes) is he does not yell at me. He doesn’t get loud with me at. All. For me to grow up the way I did around my parents in constant chaos, and then finding out there are men who don’t get loud and cuss you out?
This relationship has been something completely different than what I have ever experienced. He is all around the most thoughtful person I have ever met, and the most respectful man I have ever met.
He is about to turn 24 this month, and I am 26. However, he is more mature some males twice his age.
In PAST relationships I was made to feel as if I was too much, or required too much effort, and I believed them. Until now. Now things that were “too much” for other people don’t apply.
If they are one they will step up, and there won’t be a need to question their intentions. That is exactly what my partner did with me.
So to sum a post that or may not be all over the place, and hard to follow;
It was through many failed relationships that I found my way to my forever soulmate. I regret none of those relationships, because I learned so much from all of them, but he is the reason I have the courage to do this, and the reason I know all of this to be true.